Just one little word, but
one that holds so much power. What is it about this concept that creeps into
women and forces them to need it in order to move on. And is it only women that
need it? If guys need it too, in what form of behavior do they show it? Maybe
it is just us women that make it known, and guys continue on as if nothing
happened, having the coveted ability to bury past emotions deep inside of
them.
If one conversation or
solicited explanation is all we need to move on, why can't we accept the
parental advice or constant praise from our friends instead of from the
ex? Do we truly believe what our friends and family tell us
about ourselves, or do we only believe it once a guy confirms what we've needed
to hear? Is it any less true if you never get the closure you need? And if you
don't get it, will the ghost of your past relationships haunt you forever?
Maybe closure is all about
hearing one more time why it didn't work out. Do fairy tales teach us as
little girls that everything needs to have a beginning and an end? And
when we don't get that "happily ever after," we need
to find our own way to put a stamp on it, close the book, blow
out the flame. Create the finale in the story of the Two of You; the concluding
act in yet another failed relationship. Is hearing the
reason behind the inevitable break-up really the motivating factor in moving
on?
When it comes to closure, are we just masochists?
